Caregiving for a loved one can be a daunting, overwhelming experience. Whether tending for a parent, spouse, or other loved one, caregiving is a journey fraught with stresses, uncertainties, frustrations, and disruptions to the way we have been living our lives. However, we’re not alone, and we’re not without tools to help us along the way. Linda Flemming, the Client and Caregiver Engagement Specialist at Community Support Connections, wants us to remember the 5 ‘R’s of Self-Care as we navigate our caregiving experience:
Recognise. You are not alone! Often caregivers feel that they are the only ones going through their situation, and are hesitant about sharing how they are feeling. Not only is this not true, but internalising isolation with the increased responsibilities of caring for a loved one has an overwhelming negative impact on our social wellbeing. It is important in the early stages of caregiving to find ways to connect and share with others.
Reach Out. Look for connections! The importance of reaching out, either informally to family and friends, or formally to resources in your community, will have a positive impact on your caregiving journey. Finding out others who share your experiences can help reduce the feeling of being overburdened. Community resources may include respite resources, personal care supports, education sessions, and Caregiver Support Groups, such as those run by Community Support Connections in Waterloo Region.
Recharge. Stay active! The demands of caregiving are very high, so look for ways in which you can recharge both physically and mentally. Even simple exercise like a walk or an exercise class where you are present with others can be a simple, but effective way to recharge. Breathing exercises, mindfulness exercises, journaling, artistic expression, and exploring nature are all activities that can be easily integrated into your routine to stay mindful of your health. Ensure you are eating well, getting the correct amount of rest and sleep, and keeping your mind active with reading, educational opportunities, and social connection.
Release. As a caregiver, your mind and body can become a sponge for all the physical and emotional demands placed upon it. It is important to ‘wring out the sponge’ on a regular basis by managing and dissipating your stress and feelings. Forms of self-care, such as connecting with others, laughter, crying, acceptance, and firm decision-making, are crucial to managing your stress and compassion fatigue. Emotions, right or wrong, are reactions to what you are experiencing. It is critical to recognise and release them in a healthy way, to prevent emotional paralysis.
Resiliency. Keep positive and keep bouncing back! It is imperative that you are able to maintain your well-being and effectiveness even amidst the challenging, disruptive days on your caregiving journey. Resilience is not a single attribute – rather, it is a synthesis of multiple facets that can help you through each day. Positivity, confidence, connection, priority-setting, and creativity can all play a role in helping you navigate your caregiver experience.
At the end of the day: Take care of yourself! Being mindful of these five ‘R’s will go a long way to building and maintaining a healthy state of well-being!