Whether you are married or in a relationship, it’s easy to fall into a rut. You get used to doing the same things together, settle into the status quo.
As comforting as this can be, it can also become mundane.
Instead of adding more “date nights” to the mix, how about becoming more social, both individually and as a couple?
Friendships add depth to your life and your marriage for many reasons:
- They offer alternative perspectives and accountability. Sometimes it’s easier to hear something from the mouth of a friend, and alternatively, it may be easier for a friend to be blunt than a partner. This could be about anything – from a new hair style to a disagreement you had with a neighbour to the new business plan you are working on.
- You have other people to share your interests with. For example, maybe you’re into athletics and your spouse enjoys the arts. While it is nice to do these things together (sometimes), you will surely enjoy them that much more with someone who is equally as knowledgeable and enthusiastic about it as you are.
- Outside friendships can foster independence. It is easy to let a partner take over certain aspects of the relationship or look to them as the main decision maker. When out with friends, this responsibility falls to you.
- One person can’t possibly meet all of your needs, all of the time. We need different people in our lives to bring laughter, offer an indulgence, hold us to a higher standard, cut us some slack, the list goes on.
At Amintro we recommend doing a social activity at least once a month as a couple, and once a month individually, though weekly would be ideal.
But what happens when one partner is more of an extrovert?
It is not uncommon for one spouse to be more socially active than the other. In these cases, open communication, honesty and balance are crucial. Respect boundaries, enjoy time out with friends but know when to turn down invitations as well. And remember, it is important for you both to spend time with friends, even the introvert.
Everyone benefits from strong, healthy relationships. And if you aren’t sure where or how to get started, let Amintro help. Designed exclusively for those 50 plus, we will connect you with like-minded people in your area online so that you can meet up with confidence in person.
Start living a more socially engaged life, your relationship will be happier and healthier for it!
By Christine Tompa